Let’s get real. Men and women are different. Boys and girls are different. When Debra Lafave was 23 she had sex with a 14 year old boy who was her student. Big deal. She should get a slap on the wrist, not jail time.
Which is pretty much what happened. Today the remaining sex charges against Lafave were dropped, leaving her subject just to three years of house arrest and seven years of probation. Good.
There’s a lot of people (translation: “guys”) in the blogosphere who think she deserves a medal. I wouldn’t go that far, but when this 57-year-old saw her interviewed on Fox News this afternoon, my inner 14-year-old said, “Wow! She’s hot! Whatever teacher wants to do with me, bring it on.”
This also is the basic theme of “Living out every teenage boy’s fantasy” and similar blog posts here, here, and here. The honest male point of view, absent artificial political correctness, is: “When a gorgeous 23 year old woman has sex with a willing 14 year old boy, that’s a gift, not a crime.”
Note the important proviso, “willing.” And I’ll admit that willing or not, there are some psychological risks involved in teacher-student sex of this sort. I just don’t believe that they usually are very great. We’re talking boys here, not girls. A male teacher having sex with young female students is a completely different thing. Remember: boys and girls are different.
It’s being reported that “A psychiatrist who examined the teenager told the judge at a previous hearing that the boy suffered extreme anxiety from the media coverage of the case and does not want to testify.” That’s why the remaining charges were dropped, to protect the boy.
If Lafave and her student had never been caught, the boy would have been a lot better off. The trauma he’s suffering from all the media attention is far less than the trauma (better termed “joy”) he received at the hands, and other body parts, of Debra Lafave.
The age of consent in many countries is 14 or less. If Lafave and the boy had been in Germany, Canada, or Mexico their conduct would have been censorable but apparently not criminal. Here, as with many other issues, perhaps the United States has something to learn from the rest of the world.