Typically it isn't easy for me to stay focused on the present moment without having my mind conjure up all kinds of unrelated thoughts. This happens not only in my morning sitting meditation, but also in my Tai Chi classes (Tai Chi has been termed "meditation in motion").
Today in class I was doing my best to pay close attention to my movements. That worked for a while. Until it didn't. Then I found myself contemplating what I was going to have for dinner, whether I was going to get rained on when I walked back to my car, and other thoughts having nothing to do with Tai Chi.
There's one way, though, that really helps with my attempts at being mindful of what's happening right here, right now: death.
Not actually dying, obviously. But a heartfelt realization that one day, I will die and almost certainly will never be able to experience anything ever again. Not Tai Chi. Not meditation. Not writing a blog post. Not walking our dog. Not spreading lawn fertilizer. Not buying a car (which happened yesterday). Not anything.
Usually this realization arises unbidden in my mind. At least, that's the only way I have it in a full-blown fashion where my eventual death isn't just a thought -- such as I'm having as I write this post -- but a sort of gut punch that comes out of nowhere with an emphatic nonverbal message.
Best I can describe it in words is something like Hey, this thing you're doing now... someday you won't be able to do it... along with everything else... because you'll be dead and gone.
That happened to me today when I was doing the Water Boxing form in an upstairs room at our athletic club after I'd finished the aerobic and weight-lifting part of my exercising, and before I headed off to my Monday Tai Chi class.
Per usual, I was doing the form pretty much on autopilot, because I know it so well. That freed up my mind to ramble through its customary repertoire of thoughts, feelings, and such. You know, how much time I had before I needed to leave for Tai Chi, how nice it would be to eat the mixed nuts and plain yogurt mixed with raspberries and strawberries that I had in my car as my usual pre-Tai Chi snack, that sort of stuff.
Then it hit me. All of that, plus anything else I might do, was on a completely different existential dimension from the blunt fact of non-existence. Meaning, death. Regardless of how much I like or dislike happenings in this world, all that is at total odds with the absence of any happenings at all.
This intuitive realization, which again wasn't a thought, made me look upon the Water Boxing form that I was doing in a fresh way. Suddenly it became something very precious. Like every moment would be if I were able to make that realization of my eventual death a constant, rather than an occasional, part of my experience of life.
I was grateful for being able to do the form. I was grateful for being alive. I was grateful for the view of a parking lot through the windows of the exercise room. Compared to experiencing nothing after death, all of the minor desires, annoyances, and such that had been occupying my mind faded away. I was able to be mindful of how I was doing the Water Boxing form without distractions.
That's the power of death. Of course, the realization didn't last. Which strikes me as a good thing, really. While I'm grateful for these glimpses of my eventual non-existence (the only way to experience death, since death is the end of glimpses and everything else), they don't seem meant to be a permanent feature of my consciousness.
Maybe that will change someday. For now, I'm pleased that they arise unexpectedly from time to time. That makes them special. If I had a constant sense of the fragility of life and the imminence of death, I feel that this would detract from my ability to live a normal life, enjoying normal things, being a normal person.
Interestingly, I've stopped having what I described in my "Death and the primal fear of non-existence" post. Maybe this is a benefit of growing old (I'm 76 now). Death no longer scares me like it used to. While I don't welcome it, it's more of a simple fact of life for me now.
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