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September 02, 2021


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>>Better self-awareness comes from sharing our self with others<<

If that were true, those who are silent most of the time, have no idea who they are, are not aware of themselves.

The rest is food for a psychologist

* "When we are forced to explain things to others, there is less opportunity to be swayed by internal signals of fluency that might create unwarranted feelings of confidence in our knowledge." 

Indeed, there is definitely something in explaining or sharing with others as an aid to seeing one's own state of mind. I guess that whatever arises is always an aid toward helping to see and understand the workings of the self/mind - and yes, writing things down is also helpful.

* "Out in the world, imagining that I'm in touch with something that isn't really there is much more difficult, because "there" is apparent to other people also."

This is somewhat tricky in that for many "out there in the world" is often not a reality in the sense that things are seen not as they are, but through one's own personal concepts - and much is not 'seen' due to the habit of being 'lost in thought'. A whole journey can be taken without any awareness of the places travelled through.

This awareness of mind with its constant flood of thought is probably one of the first (and last) places to practice awareness - not that there is anyone 'there' who's doing the practice!

We never get out of our head. That is an illusion. We can refine what is in our head. Feedback from others is a crucial part of that process: Unless we are so calcified by our thinking that we cannot hear or see except what we wish to.

An open mind to both inner and outer realities is the best assurance that we are adding little to the reality we witness.

And a closed mind to either actually reflects the harmful triumph of opinion over observation.

When two people come together, one has the opportunity to see life through another lense as well as see themselves differently. This may not prove accurate, though, depending on the filters of the individuals. Group interactions are much the same. Our perceptions aren’t gospel and bouncing our thoughts off of others gives us the chance to question and test those thoughts. It’s reciprocal.

Perception isn’t a perfect science. Our filters are deeply rooted. Isolation and contemplation are beneficial for short periods of time but ultimately we’re social animals, whether we are extroverts, introverts or fall somewhere in between.

Regardless, social interactions help us learn to moderate our actions so that we can be functioning, contributing members of society.

Our perceptions and beliefs about ourselves can alter rapidly depending upon the company we keep. So, that’s key.

I agree that writing can help you to get beyond your self. We can better understand what we believe to be true when we try to explain it to others.

Better self awareness comes from accepting what is within you and what you see and hear around you.

But judging these things leads to dismissing them. And even not seeing them.

So accept what people say as their truth. It might not be your truth and it doesn't have to be. If you see something else, that's also real. Honor it.

Just because someone else said something different doesn't mean they aren't confused too.

"The opposite of one truth may not be wrong. It may just be another truth."
Niels Bohr

Being kind and at the same time being alert and listening to others and also at the same time being an observer without attachment and judgement makes life so much easier. No longer having to put one's own beliefs at forefront or even thinking about what we believe in.

I like this quote: "Because one believes in oneself, one doesn't try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn't need others' approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her."

"Being forced to make our knowledge public ensures that misplaced confidence is exposed. For similar reasons, it is easier for us to recognize when someone else is talking nonsense than to recognize that same flaw in ourselves."

"Being forced..."

Sounds like 1984

I like this quote: "Because one believes in oneself, one doesn't try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn't need others' approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her."

Posted by: Jen | September 03, 2021 at 09:10 PM

That’s lovely, zen Jen! 💕

Flexibility and adaptability are synonymous with greater intelligence. When you keep trying to push a square peg into a round hole, you’re not persistent you’re ignorant.

Stubborn = stupid.

Sharing, caring, giving… any of the things we have to offer others helps us to evolve. Love is the ultimate unlimited resource. The more you give, the more it grows. Giving is growing. Sharing is connecting.

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