I share a guest post from myself about loving the life you're with

Thank you, me, for giving permission to myself to share on this blog a post I wrote for my HinesSight blog on Thanksgiving Day. I truly am thankful that I am so generous with myself.

So check out "If you can't be with the life you love, love the life you're with." You get extra credit if you're able to identify the source of the saying that I adapted for the blog post title.

Here's an excerpt from the post.

Sure, it's wonderful to be thankful. However, life is difficult. And I hate to break this news to you younger folks, but life gets more difficult as we grow older. 

Not in all ways. In some ways.

Notably, when it comes to health and the pain that often accompanies our problems. Some pain is physical. Some is psychological, such as regret that one's life hasn't turned out as expected way back when.

So it's asking a lot to be thankful for things in your life that aren't welcome. I suppose my love the life you're with sounds similar, but I see some differences between thankfulness and love. Love of life is more inclusive than thankfulness for this and that. 

If our back is hurting so much we can't get out of bed, that isn't an aspect of life we want to have hang around. However, it's possible to view that pain as part of a larger life that we love. Which is sort of how we view our children when they're young.

They can be a pain to deal with, but we still love them for who they are, flaws included.

Acceptance of what is actually present in our life is a big step toward loving our life. Denial, which includes "this shouldn't be happening to me," isn't helpful, though it is temping to indulge in, since we would rather be with the life we love than the life we're with if the latter is lacking some things we value.

Comments

[Hoodwinked]

Steven Stills CSNY + Buffalo Springfield

Love the one you're with

[Ron Krumpos]

"Love the one you're with."Steven you are right on.

Rose, my wife of 50 years, share with me the highs of life and gets me through the lows. Love love...even when you cannot love life.

[S]

Beautiful ☺️

Love the one your with... sometimes you get what you need... two out of three ain’t bad—same message basically.

But I believe in truuu love... something more like Satan and 2020 (in case you didn’t see my videos in open thread I’ve copied them here).

https://youtu.be/FTn8g406kvc

https://youtu.be/OTmozhwk9rw

[s*]

To be with what life gives you is a good feeling.
Feeling thankfull is lovely..
We are in a learning proces, even if we do not always see it like that..
Just ´Be´ is nice..no matter what ;0)

[Spence Tepper]

When we quiet ourselves we become aware of an immense being, LIFE, whom we had neglected in favor of our invented identity, manufactured relationships, and their inevitable maintenance issues. To love the one we are truly with, is the One we were pining for all along. Like the Wizard of Oz, the object of our true desire wasn't some imagined person in some imagined place or time, but right inside each of us, more stunning than we could have imagined. Love the one you're re with, right inside yourself, don't neglect them. They are right here and now.