Ah, it feels so good to let in the light, to freshen the atmosphere, to relieve the pressure of a claustrophobic enclosure. Not anywhere outside -- within our psyche.
All we need to do is keep open a crack in our meaning-of-life belief system, that conglomeration of thoughts, feelings, intuitions, knowings, and what-not which enable us to get out of bed in the morning, move through life with a sense of purpose, and offer us some answers to what's it all about?
Nothing is 100% certain. Including what I just said.
Hey, there might well be something that is 100% certain. So far, though, it isn't apparent. Even the most intensively validated theories of science, such as quantum theory, are considered by the scientific method to always be open to falsification.
So living in touch with reality requires that we remain open to the possibility that whatever we fervently believe to be true, isn't. Otherwise truth could smack us in the face and we'd pretend that we didn't feel a thing.
If you're absolutely sure that God exists, erase the absolutely in your mind. Ditto if you're absolutely sure that God doesn't exist. Double ditto for any other belief that you don't see yourself ever letting go of, or modifying.
Loosen your hold. Lighten your dogmatism. Lessen your certainty.
I'm not saying that we should uncritically embrace every alternative belief path that appears before us. The human mind generally moves along well-trod patterns for good reasons. Sticking with the tried and seemingly true allows us to learn from experience rather than having to figure out again today what was known yesterday.
However, whenever we find ourselves defending some position with unusally rigid zeal, that could be a sign that a retreat is in order. How far we move back from our personal 100% Certain Maginot Line is up to us.
I don't think it matters much how large the doubt gap is. Truth can slip through the eye of a psychological needle, or a wide open mental barn door.
What counts is that some crack exists in the otherwise solid structure of our belief system. This is where the benefits will come from that I mentioned above: lightness of being, freshness of attitude, relaxing of rigidity.
Recently I was lying in bed, about to fall into sleep, with thoughts of what one day will come -- death -- running through my mind. I mulled over one of my favorite frightening fascinating topics, non-existence.
I recalled how in a conversation with friends a few days ago, someone told a story about an atheist she knew who was in a hospice, close to dying. He kept asking staff and visitors, "What happens next? What happens next?"
Meaning, after death.
Now, since he was an atheist, one would expect that he already had an answer to his own question: nothing. When you're dead, you're dead. No more consciousness, no more existing.
But that prospect can be scary, especially if life feels like it's well worth living. If you're happy being alive, it's only natural to want to hold onto that good feeling for as long as possible.
That's why eternity is so appealing to religiously minded people. They don't believe they'll ever stop existing. To them death is just a transition to an even better life.
I could feel some familiar anxiety arising as I visualized my own non-existence (yes, I know that's impossible). I could tell that it was going to be difficult to fall asleep so long as I felt trapped within the bounds of a reality marked by an absolute finis at the moment of my last breath.
Then I thought, "That isn't absolutely certain. No one knows for sure what happens, or doesn't happen, after death. There's a slight possibility that my consciousness will continue to exist, just as I used to believe."
Instantly I felt the mental pressure subside, like I'd opened a stress-release valve. I relaxed into a pleasant state of who knows? Sure, I still considered that the vastly most likely possibility is that death is The End.
But allowing even a small likelihood of To Be Continued into my mind changed everything. And the same would have been true if my certainty had been in life after death.
Cracks in belief systems are beneficial no matter what the content of our convictions are. It's never healthy to believe that you can't be wrong. That's egotistical, dogmatic, and, well, wrong.
In one of Huston Smith's books he talks of meeting a Zen practitioner who tells him, "I've got a new koan: I could be wrong."
Beautiful. Fully embrace that koan and it seems like enlightenment would be close at hand.
"If I realize that there is no 'self', then why would I think of a 'journey' being completed? I see a 'no-self' not needing any journey at all." quote Roger
That is correct, there is no need for a journey. Only a direct realization of how impersonal thought.... personalizes itself.
The question is transposed from India. The question 'Who am I ?', should actually
be 'Am I a WHO?"
The Western mind understands it clearer that way.
Nicely put.
This is the first time I remember coming across the query Am I a Who? But I'm pretty familiar with Buddhist, Zen, Vedanta, Taoist, and other literature where this is a central focus of the teachings.
It's a great question.
For me, what it does is point to the potential dissolving of the main motivation for seeking some sort of salvation, enlightenment, divinity, self-knowledge, or other "spiritual" goal.
After all, if there's nobody at home inside my psyche to sign for the self-realization package, why should I be concerned with ordering it?
Buddhist meditation teacher Rodney Smith talks about this paradox, or contradiction, in his book "Stepping Out of Self-Deception: the buddha's liberating teaching of no-self."
Smith's central thesis is that most, if not all, of the effort people devote to their spiritual practice is misguided, because this simply strengthens the ties that bind them to the notion that they are individual free will'able selves with the capacity to liberate themselves from ... something or other.
If this whole liberation/salvation game is founded on a false premise -- that the playing field of "I am" or selfhood exists -- then Alfred E. Neumann's famous Mad magazine phrase is right on.
"What, me worry?" No me, no worries. Smith says:
As we have seen in a previous chapter, the sense-of-self builds upon the pain of its own contraction, forming a narrative that when left unimpeded consumes us emotionally, physically, and psychologically. The effort we make can undermine or support the narrative depending upon our view and intention.
Wise Effort is in alignment with the Wise View of interconnectedness and the Wise Intention of retracing our longing back to its source. But like a fine craftsman we must pick exactly the right instrument to satisfy this purpose, or we will be supporting the conditions for self-deception and add further dialogue to our story.
The four R's of Wise Effort are the perfect instruments for this objective. They are relax, release, relinquish, and rejoin. None of these words holds any tension or stress, nor builds upon the "story-of-me." These words represent moments of surrender, not acts of assertion.
They allow us to fall back into ourselves rather than make something of ourselves. They call us back to our inherent nature through Wise View.
The four R's do not build upon the sense-of-self; instead they invert the energy of seeking back to its rightful direction of investigation and discovery. The four R's are counterintuitive because the sense-of-self only survives by constructing itself over time, and these words deconstruct the self by eliminating the scaffolding on which it builds itself.
I'm not on board with the supernatural side of Buddhism. But I like how the central notion of no-self (anatta) is firmly in line with modern neuroscience when stripped of metaphysical speculation.
I like to visualize how I'd feel if I learned that the being I think of as "me" actually is a robot, a computer simulation, or some other entity far different from the self that I consider myself to be.
That is, if I wasn't really who I think I am, would I be as concerned with such questions as "What will be I be after I die?" and "Have I become all that I can be?"?
And if the answer is No, then Buddhism and other "Am I a Who?" teachings are asking a great question.
Heck, it might be the only question spiritual seekers need to ask, since it points toward the possible dissolving of all other meaning-of-life questions.